Counting Down to Love!

It’s nearly Valentine’s Day 

and I’m counting down to Love.

10 posts, 10 days + 1 free book for you!

It's an offering of love to help you create the unconditionally loving relationships—the Big Love—you have always longed for.

Perfect Love. Perfect Love is the only kind of Love worth having and living for.

It’s the kind of Love that will truly change the world because with Perfect Love we have committed to loving others through our spiritual identity instead of through our personality or ego. Don't you think it's time?!

Would you like to join me in the Celebration?

Here’s the plan:

1. For the next 10 days I will post one life-changing, Love-enhancing  “Love Link.”

Each Love Link is a method, a practice, you can use to connect more deeply with another person so that unconditional Love can flourish.

These Love Links are found in the book I co-authored with my husband, Brad, in 2006: Perfect Love: How to Find Yours and Make It Last Forever.

Perfect Love is the tale of our journey of creating spiritual partnership: an intimate relationship based on living and loving through our essence, our “Spirit self,” and not the ego.

It is our “how to” book so you can create your own unconditionally loving relationships, too!

2. Receive a FREE downloadable copy of our book, Perfect Love, now.

This is our Valentine’s Day gift of Love to you—to anyone who would like a copy. No strings attached! 

The book you will receive is the very same book as the hardcover version that sells in bookstores for $19.95. It is 157 pages. You can read more about the book here. 

From our hearts to yours! May this Love flow out and create ripples of Love felt around the world, starting with you!

By filling out the request form below, you will receive your book, and you can get started creating your Perfect Love right away.

Let's begin our journey into Perfect Love, shall we?

Love Link 1 ~ Speak Spirit!

 

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Communicate with one another using Spirit language, rather than the language of the Ego Broadcast. This is a big shift in communication style for any couple. Until now, you have probably been speaking as if you are the feelings you’re experiencing. “I am angry. I am jealous.” To begin to “speak Spirit” you must be vigilant about observing the ego’s messages and choosing not to speak them aloud or act upon them, especially to your partner. You can speak about the feelings: “I am experiencing some feelings of anger” or “My ego is sending messages of jealousy.” This is the language of Spirit. To speak those feelings as if they are you, is to speak your ego.

The effect of speaking to one another in this way is powerful. It allows you to separate yourself from the strong emotions that are trying to surface. It also does not make your partner wrong for having done something to cause a strong reaction in you. You are not pointing a finger at your partner or blaming him or her, which keeps the two of you in alignment.

Speaking about your ego enables you both to witness the ego and join efforts to resist its pull. You remain connected, jointly committed to observing any ego episode. In this way, you are true partners to one another, instead of adversaries.

Practice speaking Spirit together. The more you do it, the easier it will become. As a couple you can assist each other with this. You can point out how the ego may be trying to take over. You can gently say to one another, “Don’t forget. You have some choices. You have some tools.” Do so with love and compassion for one another.

Excerpted from from Perfect Love: How to Find Yours and Make It Last Forever by Brad and Jan Lundy. Heart to Heart Press. 2006. All Rights Reserved. 

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Thanks for sharing. 

Photo credits (top) Stuart Miles
(bottom) Salvatore Vuono
  

When Ego Goblins Call, What's a Body to DO?

(This is an older blog post from 2008, but I thought you might enjoy reading it this Halloween too!

When Ego Goblins Come to Call, 
What's A Body to Do?


I awoke to the most amazing fall morning in northern Michigan. It's the last day of October—Halloween— and so often this day has been characterized by biting winds, rain, and scores of soppy, shivering Trick-or-Treaters. This morning it was in the high 50's, glorious sunshine, with temps predicted to go as high as 70 degrees! The swans are parading in front of my house on the Bay, the Canadian Geese are swimming in formation, and the finches, chickadees, and two pesky chipmunks are nibbling at feeders in the backyard. It feels like a fairy tale sort of day when I look out my windows, and I am certain that the inner peace I am feeling now will prevail throughout the day.

Until I go to my computer that is. Then the "real world" seems to cascade in. It threatens to blow me off course and take me into murky waters—stress, worry, too much to do, deadlines to make, and the like. I't's been suggested by my publisher to create another blog on amazon.com to help promote Your Truest Self, and I gladly comply. Until, that is, all those technological goblins hit and I am seconds away from being a teary  mess. I am not a techno sort of gal. I'd rather be watching swans any day. But duties call, and what that means to me is diving into a computer world with which I am somewhat inept and uncomfortable. (I may have been the last person on the planet to sign up for e-mail, no kidding!)

But I want to hold on to my sense of peace this morning. I really do. So I open up my inner peace toolbox and see what's there. Here's what I found:

1. I can observe what's happening to me. I can feel my peace slipping away—literally.
   This is good!

2. I can say "No, thank you," and decide in that moment to reorient myself.  
   Yep, did that!

3. I can choose an activity (even for a few moments) that will enable me to shift my energy—from tear-filled frustration to calm.  
   Ok, move away from my desk, go into the kitchen, refill my coffee cup, make some peanut butter toast, and check back in with the Bay. No swans this time, but a large gaggle of geese.  Nice!

4. I can choose to re-engage the activity with a new intention to get the job done with minimal frustration and maximum calm. 
   I take some deep breaths, go slowly, and relax. 

5. Accessing calm brings greater clarity. Clarity brings wisdom.  
   Feeling more clear, I get an inkling that I might be using the wrong e-mail address and password. Amazing! All the pages work now. I am in. Hallelujah!

This is a process any of us can engage in. I truly believe that. As long as our heartfelt intention is to remain peaceful throughout our day, no matter what comes—no matter how frustrating, nasty, or ghoulish the news or situation, I believe we can choose how to respond. It just takes practice. It begins with learning how to notice (become acutely aware of the thoughts and feelings that rise up from within us), and redirect our thoughts. Then make a new choice.

I can choose peace for myself. You can too. It's not that hard. Practice peace and you will experience more and more peace. Practice peace and, in time, you will be peace. 

Remember, engaging in life in a new way, breaking old habituated ways of acting, and incorporating healthy new ones, takes time. Researchers say it takes 3 weeks to create a new habit. 90 days for it to stick. Even longer to become part of your lifestyle. 

Believe you me, inner peace is a choice. One we make again and again for ourselves—especially when life threatens to overwhelm, sabotage, or defeat us. We make or break our own peace. This is empowerment. This is living as our truest self. 

Inner peace is mine, one choice at a time.

Inner peace is mine, one step at a time.

Inner peace is mine, one breath at a time. 

I'm off in a short while to enjoy Halloween with my 7-year-old granddaughter. I'll carry my newfound peace with me as I go. And no goblins or spooks—even ego based ones, will knock me off of my peaceful pedestal. Care to join me? 

Sending warm October breezes of inner peace your way ...

All Love,

Jan

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Want a great resource for accessing inner peace when ego-goblins come to call? Check out Peace is Every Step by Thich Nhat Hanh. It's a life-saver! Saved mine in 1994 when illness struck. But that's another post. ;-)

©Janice Lynne Lundy, 2008