Showing posts with label Being Present. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Being Present. Show all posts

Friday, December 9, 2011

Boxless Presents

Every year I vow to do Christmas a little different. A little more simple. A little more meaningful. 

This year is no exception. I've done very little shopping, minimal decorating, choosing to focus instead on being "in" the season—adopting a mind state of open-heartedness, gratitude, and joy as best I can.

I've also been pondering the idea of “boxless presents" that our family members might be able to give one another. What things mean the most to us? What would we like to receive from someone else? I know what I’d like to receive from the loved ones in my life. I’d like to be given the gift of their time. In my view, there is no better gift than being able to spend time with the people I love.

Moving through life at the pace we are, with “To Do” lists dominating our days, it is our free time that becomes a precious commodity. Is it possible this year to make a change and create a “To Be” list for ourselves—a roster of all the ways we can be with the important people in our lives—giving the holiday gift of our presence instead? (This is something I'm working on personally ...)

What might be on your “To Be” list? Perhaps a leisurely walk with someone who needs a listening ear; reading a book with a grandchild; reliving old memories perusing  photo albums with an aging parent or grandparent; a phone call to a childhood friend (or someone with whom you’ve lost touch). These are the things that mean the most: the gifts of listening, caring, and presence. They are things that cannot be wrapped in pretty paper and placed under the Christmas tree, but they are entities of enduring value. They are also memories in the making. They are gifts that will last and last.

Time moves quickly. Life is short. When all is said and done and we look back upon our lives, what we’ll remember most are the people with whom we spent our days and nights. We will recall the warm hugs of friends, children, and grandchildren; hearty, animated at the dinner table; the late nights we shared comforting one another through the ups and downs of life.

It’s interesting isn’t it, the similarity in these two words: “Presents” and “presence”? Which would you prefer to receive? If gift giving is at the top of your priority list, my hope for you this holiday season is that you will dig deeper than your pocketbook and creatively design some quality time—the gift of presence—for the important people in your life. And that you will receive some in return, as well. 


Simplicity of living, if deliberately chosen, implies a compassionate approach to life.  It means that we are choosing to live our daily lives with some degree of conscious appreciation of the condition of the rest of the world.  
~Duane Elgin




 
 
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Monday, January 25, 2010

A ROOM OF HER OWN ~ From Where I Sit ~ Being Present

BEING PRESENT

Many years ago, I fell in love with the work of Joan Chittister, OSB. She is an outspoken gal who doesn't mince words. You know exactly where she stands on any number of issues. Her column in the National Catholic Reporter, in fact, is titled, "From Where I Stand."

She's inspired me to reconsider the course and future of this blog. I created it last summer. At the time, I hoped to use it as a "teaching tool," to share what I know; what I've learned from wise others along the way. It's now mid-winter and in the spirit of reflection, I'm feeling change is in order.

I've made a decision. I'm going to do something here that I have wonderful intentions for but never seem to get around to ~ journal ~ on a regular basis. To simply share what is happening with me. What I'm noticing. What I'm learning personally. Where I'm rising and falling, drifting. The view from where I sit.  

I hope you will continue to join me. Though, to honor my new creative projects (they need room of their own to breathe!), I'll likely be posting just one day a week. I also hope you will continue to share with me how your spiritual journey is unfolding—how YOU are rising, falling, drifting.


Here goes. I begin ... 

I've been traveling. Gone from the "Nest" for 4 days, which often seems like a lifetime to me to be away from my beloved husband. Away from the silence I cherish. Away from the Bay whose depths hold my heart.

And when I travel, offering programs and spiritual counsel, even though I mightily love what I do, a big part of me is here ... on the couch, gazing at the gray/green liquid, listening to ambient music, or just sitting in the silence. Candle aglow. Yes, this is my life and I love it so. I feel so blessed to do what I do and live in a place of great beauty. Creativity flourishes in this place.

But I miss it terribly when I am gone. Sometimes I even feel a little sickly when I am away for too long. When I drive back home and can finally see the water, I feel like I can breathe again. I literally feel my heart open a little wider just by catching the view.

So I have this tug and pull in me. I love what I do (when I travel/work) and I love being home. Do you ever feel like this?

A little voice inside of me says I "should" be happy wherever I am. That if I was a completely evolved woman I would be fully present wherever I find myself. I'd carry my home with me wherever I go.

I'd be a turtle woman.

I'd be content wherever my sturdy legs took me. After all, I actually DO have everything I need to be perfectly well, happy, and whole tucked right inside of me—wherever I go.

But sometimes I forget. I get spiritual amnesia, forget to use my tools, and wallow a little in "missing-ness." Bask a bit in not being absolutely fine where I find myself.

So, me and my life are a work in progress. I have the intention to be very present wherever I am—and actually most of the time I am. But I never claimed to be perfect, nor would I want to be.

It's a blessing to be a human being in this body with all these lessons to learn. Perhaps it is even a blessing to forget, because in the remembering we fall back into the arms of gratitude for this life we have been given—wherever we find ourselves.

I hope you are happy today, wherever you are.

And, as always, I welcome your thoughts ... 

(Image, "Turtle Woman Interrupted" by Jennifer Long courtesy of http://www.bookcrossing.com/artists/longdeherrera


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What I'm reading: Happiness is an Inside Job: Practicing for a Joyful Life by Sylvia Boorstein


What I'm listening to: Soundtrack from "10 Questions for the Dalai Lama" by Peter Kater. You can also view the trailer for this film there.