What's Love Got to Do With It?
From where I sit, Valentine's Day is right around the corner. I love this holiday of love ...
So before I headed south, I purchased all of my Valentine's cards and stamps because even though I was on the road I could not bear to miss this special day.
For me, it's never been about the gifts (though those can be nice). It's about the sentiment, and remembering to "officially" say 'I love you' to those I adore (though I do that all the time anyway).
I raised my three children with an abundance of love—especially verbally expressed love. Before falling off to sleep at night, it was 'I love you,' and they always answered back, 'Love you, Mom.'
It started a lifelong habit.
Whenever we parted ways, especially when I dropped them off at school, it was 'Love you, Mom.' At the close of a phone call, 'Love you, Mom.' It still is.
One of my proudest moments as a mother came when I realized that my absolutely pubescent, voice-changing son had no embarrassment about saying 'Love you, Mom,' in front of all of his gangly friends. He did not hesitate and didn't look one bit sheepish. He is now 26 and has never stopped saying it, no matter who he's with.
My beautiful daughters, too—now 20 and nearly 28. 'Love you, Mom,' is our ordinary sign-off and the highlight of my days.
When I thought of Valentine's Day and songs that reminded me of it, the lyrics of Tina Turner's song, "What's Love Got to Do with It?" popped into my head. In the 80s, I really liked that song, well, at least the way Tina sang and strutted it. I listened to her sing it again, today, this time on a You Tube video (here) and it struck me that she had it all wrong. Why hadn't I noticed this before?
Her answer to 'What's love got to do with it?'
'Love's nothing but a second hand emotion.' And ...
'Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken?' Wait a minute here!
True. Love can be difficult and painful. It can result in a broken heart. And I know that's what this song is all about. It's the tale of a woman who has been jilted by love and now she's protecting herself from being hurt again.
Like the woman singing the song, like you, I've suffered plenty of heartbreak in my life. Love lost. Love found. But I need to disagree with Tina (or the lyricist) about the answer to the question.
Love has everything to do with it. It's the only thing that matters. It's the only thing in this whole wide world that makes real sense—even when we've been hurt. It's the reason I get up in the morning and the reason I walk through my days the way I do.
It's all about love. Being the Love that we are sourced in, the Love to which we will return.
No matter what is happening in our lives we are the human ambassadors of Divine Love. "God in skin," as I've been known to say.
I believe our essence is Love. This is what I taught my children, too. And that's why no matter what, no matter their age or who they are with—even if we are having a tense time—we still end with 'Love you.' Always. We are here to be the embodiment of Love to one another.
Our communal answer of 'Everything!' could rock the world. Cock-eyed optimist that I am, I believe that to be true.
And from where I sit, may I add, a big 'ole 'Love YOU!' to you for Valentine's Day?
Calling all Floridians!
Just a reminder. While in Florida I am speaking at SW Florida's largest Women's Expo (Northport area), Saturday, February 20.
Also offering be workshops for women at Mystic See in Englewood, FL, beginning Thursday, February 18. I'd love to meet you there!