She is a gifted writer who has been speaking to women for years through the power of her pen. Her message is clear and oh, so important. Make sure you take time for you—all alone—and enjoy the pleasure of your own company. Seek solitude!
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Ode to Solitude
We are social beings and we derive a large portion of our happiness from our connections to and relationships with others. Plus we are accustomed to the constant physical and verbal activity that surrounds us. Still, the need for occasional periods of solitude is just as vital to our mental and emotional welfare.
Solitude and you.
It's where we can ask, "Who am I?" Can we really lie to ourselves about who we are? In solitude, there are no caves or walls to hide from ourselves. In our solitary moments, we can identify the person who lives in our skin and walks in our clothes.
Solitude sequesters us from the pressures to conform and compromise. It helps us to understand who we are thus explaining the reasons and rational for our emotions, individual tendencies and preferences. It creates the atmosphere for heartfelt reflection, acceptance, forgiveness and the resolve to be true to ourselves.
Solitude and spirituality.
The Bible tells of leaders in the Old Testament, like Moses, who often pulled themselves away from their families and other companions to talk to and hear God. In the New Testament, it was Jesus’ habit to withdraw from the company of his disciples for private sessions with God the Father. Many people have testified that they felt God’s presence, heard his voice and sensed His guiding hand in their moments of solitude. Solitude draws us in and ushers us into the portal through which we can seek and commune with God, through prayer and meditation.
Solitude and creativity.
Researchers, psychologist and persons of almost every creative persuasion, can attest to the benefits of solitude. Sometimes, in solitary moments inspired ideas surface to reveal how they can be merged with old, new or emerging skills. Or they appear as innovative sparks to prompt us to try something we have been avoiding. We can make use of solitude’s gentle probing to develop our creative inclinations or delve into a new adventure.
Solitude and rest.
Stealing away for a few moments of solitude will restore our energy as we give our bodies the rest it deserves. Additionally, solitude will provide the much-needed break from the presence and chatter of others. When our physical pace slows or stops completely, solitude helps our minds to adopt the same pace and our mental faculties improve. Overall, we will emerge from our time of solitude physically rested and mentally refreshed.
Solitude and life.
Solitude quiets the noise of our normal existence and allows us to hear our true thoughts, and feel our most intimate and genuine feelings. It opens our minds to find solutions to our life puzzles and to consider possibilities previously hidden in the noisy whirlwind of our busy routines. Often, solitude presents the inspiration for change in various areas of our lives. If we adopt the practice of regular periods of solitude, we will no doubt notice a slower, more thoughtful and positive response to the road bumps in our lives.
Do you avoid solitude or barely tolerate it, anxious to be set free from it? Or, are you comfortable and contented with solitude, soaking up and allowing all its benefits to enrich your life?
Cheryl and I are eager to hear ...
Cheryl Wright’s essays, feature articles and columns have been published online and in print since 1998. It was only six years or so into her writing journey that she recognized the connection between her lifelong love of solitude and writing. They feed off each other and they both nourish and inspire her as well as her writing. Cheryl writes a weekly column for the Womanwise Magazine along with miscellaneous feature articles on her specialties - self-improvement, lifestyle choices, identifying and pursuing one’s dreams, living full, free and fulfilled lives. She maintains a blog Cheryl Wright-Perspectives where she shares her perspectives on her overriding passions.
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