tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4604060928939811192.post3570660070049541137..comments2020-04-12T09:42:51.619-04:00Comments on Awakened Living: A Room of Her Own - I'm Ready, Are You?Jan Lundyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04435987976902042981noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4604060928939811192.post-66887423329545649922009-10-04T15:15:42.212-04:002009-10-04T15:15:42.212-04:00Nina,
I have been blessed—and it sounds like you h...Nina,<br />I have been blessed—and it sounds like you have too—to have been part of women's circles. Safe places where we can express our spirits and raise our voices. I do love the concept and embrace this idea that came to me to create one on the web. :) I am glad you are here with us.<br /><br />Kat,<br />So good to hear that you are aware of that voice of "not enough." I do think that it can be sourced in our families of origin (or schools or rel. institutions) but it seem to me that there is a very big (but subtle) voice that rings throughout most of our cultures—esp. patriarchal ones—which perpetuates this. So being aware of it is very good and choosing an alternative path is even better. (wink) Glad you are here.!Jan Lundyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04435987976902042981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4604060928939811192.post-85140388953856610802009-10-04T14:36:16.665-04:002009-10-04T14:36:16.665-04:00Jan
I LOVE the root and concept of your new blog....Jan<br /><br />I LOVE the root and concept of your new blog. Congratulations! I have been "consciously" on the path of awakening for awhile now, but it is not always easy to find community. <br /><br />As usual, your posts always give me something to think about. There is a voice of "not enough" up there. I don't know where it comes from. My mother and father did not overburden us with "getting everything right". I'm slowly learning how to let go, but I have a long way to go.<br /><br />KatKathttp://www.katnap.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4604060928939811192.post-75386257579920119102009-10-03T13:09:24.491-04:002009-10-03T13:09:24.491-04:00This is a Wonderful Place! It reminds me of a &quo...This is a Wonderful Place! It reminds me of a "CIRCLE" which takes place in a yert (if I've got that spelled right?). Circle is a place where women of the earth gahter, drum, chant, meditate, learn, and communicate with each other, always honoring the great Mother Earth and each other. I found it to be a place of enlightenment among women without fear of judgement. I feel this place will be very similar; one of Comfort, Enlightenment, knowledge and Love. You are a wonderful Spiritual, leader and teacher for/of the soul. Thank You for creating a place for us to visit, communicate and learn togehter. Love and Light, Nina PNinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01603112009407252993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4604060928939811192.post-2296884597514568512009-10-03T13:01:36.908-04:002009-10-03T13:01:36.908-04:00Rose,
Thank you for your sharing. This is a diffic...Rose,<br />Thank you for your sharing. This is a difficult place you find yourself in career-wise, but I am very happy to hear this voice of trust about your journey. It sounds like time of significant transition. The task is often to find some semblance of peace during these insecure times. <br /><br />I commend you for the strides you are making in making peace with body issues and more. We are all a work in progress. Yet, in any given moment, we are enough. Blessings to you!Jan Lundyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04435987976902042981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4604060928939811192.post-37210036126019091062009-10-02T18:35:19.789-04:002009-10-02T18:35:19.789-04:00Wanted to add: I love the term "Wild Women.&q...Wanted to add: I love the term "Wild Women." It reminds me of John O'Donohue's "The Divine Imagination" where he talks about how chaotic God is, not orderly and refined, but wild, unrestrained, without limits.Rose - Watching Waveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08753071639280850781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4604060928939811192.post-30959920316499493102009-10-02T18:25:07.716-04:002009-10-02T18:25:07.716-04:00Enjoy this wonderful time with your mother, Jan! L...Enjoy this wonderful time with your mother, Jan! Laugh, love, smile at one another until your cheeks hurt. Hug and hold and be grateful. Such blessings!<br /><br />A short list of the voices that keep me from embracing my enoughness (you want transparent, after all):<br /><br />- Weight - I walk daily, do yoga a few times each week, eat healthyfully, practice self-care. I long for the slender body I once had; this body makes me want to be invisible, to not date when asked out, to not want to buy clothes. I allow it to limit me because the body I see in the mirror is not the body that I *feel* within me. <br /><br />- Unemployment - I was laid off six months ago; thought I'd land a new position within a month or two. Although I submit apps every week, have had several good interviews, connect with everyone in my network of colleagues, I haven't landed a job yet. I'm eating into my savings. I am a positive, happy, hope-filled person, but this situation is eroding my self-confidence. Am I not good enough for these positions? I AM good enough, I know. It's just not where I'm supposed to be just yet. I'll continue to trust in the Divine and know that I am loved and will land where I'm supposed to land.Rose - Watching Waveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08753071639280850781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4604060928939811192.post-64100502266128691082009-10-01T20:30:49.545-04:002009-10-01T20:30:49.545-04:00Laura,
Thanks for being here. What you state is so...Laura,<br />Thanks for being here. What you state is so important—awareness—transparency about what our patterns are, or how we get sucked into our ego messages. This is so important in our journey of awakening because only then can we release all that holds us back from being our truest selves. I am happy you are aware of yours...With that, anything is possible.<br /><br />Joy,<br />What an insightful approach to helping your kids let go of any notions of perfection that might be forming. Good for you! And I think you are right. This will carry over into so many areas of life.Jan Lundyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04435987976902042981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4604060928939811192.post-38157311781727648952009-10-01T18:47:01.690-04:002009-10-01T18:47:01.690-04:00Jan,
My first thought is that I definitely follow...Jan,<br /><br />My first thought is that I definitely followed you over to your new blog. I am so glad to be here! I haven't known any like minded women, but now in my life we seem to be finding each other--I find the more open I am online, someone pops right up in life as well:)<br /><br />I too struggle with perfection, because throughout life I've been repeatedly told I am not enough..from my mom to my ex husband, to my exboyfriend. Even worse than being told though, was being shown by these people, day after day, how little I was valued. I'm fortunate I had a huge balance of kind, supportive people and a huge faith that told me yes I am worthy, and I am enough. I find it's very fun to validate:) <br /><br />I think I may have passed perfection on to my children so I told them that lately our job is to purposely make mistakes...purposely burn the pancake, purposely scribble, purposely do whatever...to show us that mistakes are common and doable, and fixable. And how much we learn from making them. At first it was tough for me to purposely mess up, went against every fiber in my being, now I'm much more relaxed; I am sure it helps me in all areas of life.Joyhttp://www.etherealjoy.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4604060928939811192.post-36441423321762715132009-10-01T18:16:50.102-04:002009-10-01T18:16:50.102-04:00I'm reading "The Hours" about Virgin...I'm reading "The Hours" about Virginia Woolf right now! Yesterday I started in on it and it described her committing suicide. In this bit of fiction she said she felt like she failed.<br /><br />Isn't that the ultimate fear?<br /><br />Honestly, I deal with it every day. <br />But at least I know what it is and where it comes from. And have the tools to defeat it, 'cause it's so delusional.<br /><br />Hope your new blog brings great insight and peace to many.<br /><br /><br />All the best,<br />LauraLaurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16966104460376436386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4604060928939811192.post-45135241352415741972009-10-01T09:42:44.539-04:002009-10-01T09:42:44.539-04:00Stoneweaver,
Such a transparent response! Thank yo...Stoneweaver,<br />Such a transparent response! Thank you. The issue of the anger of another preventing us from being our true self is a big one. Women are naturally peacemakers and we do not do conflict well...My highest hope for you is that you will find the strength to be 'real' with your friend. "I feel" statements in communication do help. <br /><br />Communicating with a sense of inner calm brings clarity of thought and emotion, which births wisdom. But, truly, before we even get to that wise place, we do have to find the courage within us to speak up. Not always easy, but it is transformative! Holding you in heart and thought as you do this...<br /><br />Rebecca,<br />Well the "P" word is one that does take time to navigate. Our cultures--esp. media--put so much pressure out there for women to be everything--beautiful, thin, savvy, sexy, smart, clean house, great cook and more. Superwomen! I believe it causes us great harm...With kindness to self we can overcome much of this. I am glad to hear that you are on this path...<br /><br />Susie Q,<br />What a wise woman you are! Of course, as you say, age does help. We learn to let go of so many things and hone in on what matters.<br /><br />The party that you gave with your heart and soul sounds wonderful. Wish I could have been there to savor all the pink and eat your tea cakes! You are a woman of true grace...<br /><br />Dawn,<br />Welcome! I love that word-Acceptance-and love that you are saying it to yourself more and more. This is so important on our journey into our truest selves. Self-doubt keeps us from en-joying ourselves and our lives, from so many things. May you continue to embrace yourself as you are. <br /><br />Ingrid,<br />Hello, love, glad you are here. Come visit our room anytime. We welcome your wise presence. Yes, we ARE holy and whole women. May we not forget...Jan Lundyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04435987976902042981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4604060928939811192.post-68434559256113860192009-10-01T08:14:51.826-04:002009-10-01T08:14:51.826-04:00Jan you do such beautiful, generous work. What a ...Jan you do such beautiful, generous work. What a lovely room you are creating here. I will venture back often to be reminded of wholeness, and of the sisterhood we live in. Love to You! IngridIngrid Goff-Maidoffhttp://www.ingridgoffmaidoff.com/tendingjoynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4604060928939811192.post-35447814530732242009-10-01T08:08:25.282-04:002009-10-01T08:08:25.282-04:00Kel,
I gratefully accept your substitute "P&q...Kel,<br />I gratefully accept your substitute "P"--Place--how powerful. I thank you for that grace-filled offering. Just makes you feel like you can breathe...<br /><br />Mary,<br />Welcome! I think many of us have fallen prey to that version of "P." Trying to change others to fit our standards. It does create difficulty, as you say. So here's to a new beginning, with breathing room and permission (another great "P" word!) for all...<br /><br />Julie,<br />I am sorry to hear that you "failed" at this weigh-in, but what I hope will happen is that you will realign yourself with the priority of good self-care. We ALL need good self-care. It is alright to put ourselves first in this arena. We must be healthy so that those around us can be too. :-) I can use more exercise by the way, too! (wink) Hug...<br /><br />Joanne,<br />As usual you put it so beautifully. "Is there anything more beautiful than the truth in seeing our flaws?" I agree and I bow to your wisdom....Thank you for this lovely reminder. <br /><br />Sharon,<br />I think we must really need to say goodbye to the "Martha Stewart" voice once and for all, don't you? Nice to know we are kindred in this way. :-) Be well!Jan Lundyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04435987976902042981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4604060928939811192.post-56693958686504191412009-10-01T07:21:28.136-04:002009-10-01T07:21:28.136-04:00I am so excited to bookmark this site and visit it...I am so excited to bookmark this site and visit it often as I read your post and the comments made by other readers.<br />First off let me say "I take the Vow of Transparency" I just LOVE that.<br />My voice is the voice of Acceptance. That is the one that gets me every time. I want to be accepted and when I blog and don't get comments or I email and don't get a response or when I say something and get no feedback. Well, that old pattern still gets me. But I am working and growing each day and it gets harder and harder to hear. <br />Much Peace to you and this great venture~<br />DawnAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4604060928939811192.post-49073394220265927782009-10-01T00:28:32.566-04:002009-10-01T00:28:32.566-04:00Jan, this promises to be a very nice blog. The id...Jan, this promises to be a very nice blog. The idea of women having a place of their own to go to reminds me of my high school days when I attended a Catholic school for girls. It was during the mid 1950's. The nuns had reserved a special room in the school for the girls. It was called "Pink Heaven." They had furnished it with some sofas and comfortable chairs. It had a few desks and small tables. This was a room the young girls could go to between classes or after school to relax, to read, to visit with one another, to do a variety of things. <br /><br />I don't see myself as a perfectionist. At least not anymore. When I was younger, yes. I know what you mean about getting ready for "Mom's visit." I used to do the same silly thing. But I am nearly 70 years old and that is a lot of water gone under the bridge. <br /><br />However I do like order and organization although you wouldn't think that if you could see my desk right now. I function better when there is order. If it were possible which it isn't because other things are more important to me, I would have a place for everything and everything would be in its place. <br /><br />I gain a lot of pleasure from having done something well. A few weeks ago I threw a baby shower for my granddaughter at my home. She is expecting a little girl, my first great-grandchild. There were close to fifty women of various ages in attendance. My refreshment table was beautiful and all in pink. All the decorations were in pink...such a nice color. I outdid myself and made a variety of tea cakes and tea sandwiches for the ladies who, in turn, had a fit over them. I did much more than was needed and I loved every minute of it. It was an opportunity for me to be creative and do something special for my granddaughter. <br /><br />Life is a lot about compromise and trade-offs. It is necessary for a person to think about what is most important to her in life and to prioritize her activities accordingly. I've tried to do that. A person can't do it all. Not even Martha Stuart. A person can't have it all, try as one might. <br /><br />To the lady here who has a big cookbook collection, I do too. Of course I have had plenty of years to build up my collection. I am not looking for the perfect recipe though. The thing is I like to read about food. Apparently other people do too and this is why these cookbooks and cooking shows are so popular. <br /><br />Many blessings on your new blog, Jan. I bet it will be a huge success.Mrs. Geezerettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17957440812143446191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4604060928939811192.post-64704559720691180782009-09-30T22:22:58.822-04:002009-09-30T22:22:58.822-04:00Sharmilla,
The way you have explained a room of yo...Sharmilla,<br />The way you have explained a room of your own in the physical (as a writing room) and in the emotional (sacred space within) is just stunning. Thank you for that. And I am so glad to hear that self-respect, boundaries, and setting limits is in your line of vision. Wonderful. Congratulations!<br /><br />Angela,<br />I adore your cookbook story. It is such a perfect example of how we keep hunting for the best and may never be satisfied. An issue for so many of us. Thank you for your sharing with such candor. :-)<br /><br />Nadia,<br />Believing in ourselves, oh, that is such a significant one. But I love your process here. As you heard yourself say that out loud, it caused a shift in awareness in you. Grande!<br /><br />Tess,<br />Welcome! This is a very powerful correlation you make between procrastination and perfection. 'Tis true, our over-the-top standards can prevent us from making decisions, risking, even taking a chance on life itself. <br />Thank you!<br /><br />Sema,<br />I, too, hope that this gathering of women will assist us all in being more confident and lovingly accepting of ourselves. We can take all the time we need to get comfortable. May we be gentle with ourselves and one another. :-)<br /><br />Ms. PP,<br />Oh, that nasty gnome fear. Comes in many forms and disguises and it does hold us back from living as our truest selves. Happy to hear that you are shining a bright light on any fear that may come to call. <br /><br />Mermaid, my friend, how I love this poem to yourself. It is brilliantly beautiful. I hope you have a fabulous time at Spirit Rock and that your inner light will guide you toward the inner peace and love you desire more of. I am accompanying you in spirit. Enjoy!<br /><br />Helena,<br />Welcome. I agree that aging brings such gifts, among which is clarity and a desire to live more simply--without the pressures of being inauthentic just to please others. I am glad you are in this place in your life.<br /><br />Blessings to all of you. Thank you for your heartfelt responses today as well as your soulful answers. My heart continues to dance! More tomorrow. Mom is here and family time is important. Love, love...Janice Lynne Lundyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12065023183951459029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4604060928939811192.post-25993436314813322852009-09-30T22:01:12.581-04:002009-09-30T22:01:12.581-04:00I'm going to have to come back tomorrow mornin...I'm going to have to come back tomorrow morning to read all the comments here, but I wanted to at least say for now, Congratulations and Thank you. I look forward to being a part of this community. Perfectionism has been my companion far too long, but I didn't recognize her because I thought a 'perfectionist' would be far more, well, perfect, than I ever hoped to be. Nothing I did was perfect, so how could I be a perfectionist? I've come to see that differently. Your being able to launch this site on the eve of your mother's visit is HUGE--all of us 'perfectionists' can recognize that and it gives us all great hope and encouragement. Thank you Jan! Very big hugs.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11402293875193058325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4604060928939811192.post-92035847659859497132009-09-30T21:29:43.515-04:002009-09-30T21:29:43.515-04:00What a great idea for a blog. But you know that it...What a great idea for a blog. But you know that it means yet more time spent reading and posting. When I got here you already had 21 comments!!<br /><br />Hmmm perfectionism. I USED to have that inside me but I read a quote in a book about yoga which said "When are you going to accept yourself and start living?" That was an 'aha' moment for me. Also, perfectionism is a drag because you are doomed to fail. Life is about making mistakes and learning. At least you are aware of the Martha Stewart voice - that's half the battle. I know some people who proclaim they are perfectionists as if that is something to be proud of - as if they are better for being that way! <br /><br />My current 'unhelpful voice' is one that stops me being 'transparent and honest' (a good poilcy by the way and one I aspire to). It is a fear of confrontation - a fear of anger. I know someone who has a very 'angry' personality and in response I am cowering away and not being my true self. At first I didn't know what was going on when I found myself lying to her. Now I have at least identified what is going on - but still not sure how to resolve it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4604060928939811192.post-16637286454937625822009-09-30T20:19:12.302-04:002009-09-30T20:19:12.302-04:00Jan, I had to laugh when I read about the "Ma...Jan, I had to laugh when I read about the "Martha Stewart voice" because I hear it, too! No worries - you've created a beautiful space here. Celebrate that. Thank you for the warm welcome.Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01448211798237937246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4604060928939811192.post-40280984615190863522009-09-30T19:41:44.077-04:002009-09-30T19:41:44.077-04:00Beautifully done, Jan! I love what you've done...Beautifully done, Jan! I love what you've done here, and what a wonderful way to explore our essence. For me, I find that perfection lies in the imperfection. Is there anything more beautiful than the truth in seeing our flaws? Best wishes here ...Joannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03972054718663959694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4604060928939811192.post-14664552744398329062009-09-30T18:25:54.012-04:002009-09-30T18:25:54.012-04:00I struggle with overcommittment. I feel that if I...I struggle with overcommittment. I feel that if I say I will be there, I must be there or do the job, or attain the goal, or meet the deadline. I put so much pressure on myself to BE for others that I forget to do selfcare.<br />Just today, I was humbled into reality again. I failed to meet my goal weight in my workplace wellness program. Back in January I made a committment to loose 5% of my body wt. by Sept. 30. I lost and gained a few pounds for 9 months, I tried giving up all pop and became very moody, I tried smaller portions and now it all seems for nothing.<br /><br />I value a "Room of Our Own" here to find support in my daily journey and to provide support to others. We are all one here and through our experiences we can all help eachother achieve a greater good for ourselves.<br /><br />Thank you, Jan, for this amazing site and for your continued support and encouragement. I hope we can also provide the same blessings back to you.<br /><br />All love, JulieJulie Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17261004072084276899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4604060928939811192.post-91324497088175708812009-09-30T18:01:50.000-04:002009-09-30T18:01:50.000-04:00Congratulations with your new blog! I have a feeli...Congratulations with your new blog! I have a feeling that it will be a success!<br />I struggle with the P word too. To the extent that I try to make my boyfriend "perfect." For example he does house chores a certain way and I correct him (not in a nice way sometimes)and show him how and when to do it. I shouldn't be doing that. <br /><br />I look forward to reading and sharing with all the beautiful women who visit this site.Mary007https://www.blogger.com/profile/01764505768446796150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4604060928939811192.post-17690695307225287262009-09-30T17:04:20.408-04:002009-09-30T17:04:20.408-04:00we celebrate new beginnings with you today Jan
an...we celebrate new beginnings with you today Jan<br /><br />and may I suggest an alternative "p" word of Place - something you are so good at creating, both in real and virtual spaces<br /><br />I look forward to joining you on the journey in this new place, this space called "a room of her own"Kelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18425317942978557478noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4604060928939811192.post-26253932627553887272009-09-30T15:54:15.559-04:002009-09-30T15:54:15.559-04:00Congratulations on your new blog which I'm sur...Congratulations on your new blog which I'm sure is going to be as successful as your Wild Women's gathering back in the days!<br /><br />I agree with The Bold Life - "The older I get the more simple I want life to be." In addition to that luckily I feel that the older I get the less I care about what other people think about me. No more wasted energy on that sort of thinking. :-)Helenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14449565609953187525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4604060928939811192.post-41002479260541364742009-09-30T14:25:34.593-04:002009-09-30T14:25:34.593-04:00This is the letter I wrote to myself today:
Dear ...This is the letter I wrote to myself today:<br /><br />Dear K,<br /> <br />Your heart is opening so tenderly to all that is here. <br /> <br />I see that you are scared about the weather at Spirit Rock and whether you will have enough clothing to keep you warm. I see that you fear pain in the neck, back, shoulders, knees, etc, as you sit for 7 whole days.<br /> <br />I see that you feel guilty about leaving your family, especially N who needs your love and support. What will she do without your voice, your kisses, your warm embrace for 7 days and nights?<br /> <br />Still, you know that you need this trip, this special place to deepen compassion for yourself, to learn more ways to let go of judgment and guilt, and to trust the intuitive healer within you and in every being you have and will ever meet.<br /> <br />Know that I am here with you, feeling all you feel, watching your heart soften until it dissolves into everything you see, and love is everywhere.<br /> <br />Love and Peace,<br /> <br />Your Compassionate Spirit<br /><br />****<br /><br />Awakened Living is so beautiful, as is your exploration of that doubting voice. It's been with me these last few days before I leave for my retreat this Friday. The letter I wrote was an invitation to allow all that is here.<br /><br />I am also thrilled for the invitation here.mermaidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15895749686844178804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4604060928939811192.post-89854760001488212552009-09-30T14:18:56.617-04:002009-09-30T14:18:56.617-04:00Congratulations on this new blog! I love it! :) I ...Congratulations on this new blog! I love it! :) I think the thing that holds me back the most is fear. I'm afraid of being not enough and that fear holds me back from embracing my "enoughness". I'm working on dealing with that fear though!positively presenthttp://www.positivelypresent.comnoreply@blogger.com